rough life

i don't understand why people marry people when that person hurts them. i have a friend here that is married, and some of the things she tells me he does, i just don't understand. he doesn't hit her, at least that i know, but i think he's a little rough of the verbage sometimes. like, the other day we got in this little argument, and one of the things she said was that she has enough negativity at home, she doesn't need it here, meaning work. i won't get into that argument, but it just makes me think, why do people put themselves in that type of environment? they know going into the marriage that he's like that. maybe there's A LOT more good stuff about him that i just don't know yet. there would need to be A LOT, and i mean A LOT of good stuff for me to get over the not so good. yeah, i grew up with being terrified of my father. not exactly negativity, but it was abuse. why would i want to marry someone who would be the same way? maybe because i was already in that environment, i knew better? i don't know. i just don't see how people can be with people who make them sad, or don't have much good to say, wether about them or someone else. and then i think about the kids involved. are they going to grow up being terrified of thier father as i was? that's not healthy either, and they don't have a choice! i don't even know if this blog even makes sense. i just had to get it off my chest. whew.
on a side note, i start rehearsals tonight, and i can't wait!